Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Blame is just a lazy person's way of making sense of chaos - Doug Coupland

I simply want to share this beautiful story below with my dear beloved readers. I am trying to understand why do we always tend to blame others? Does it make us feel much better in some way? This is the question weaving its way around and through my mind. So far, I have no answer other than: we refuse to accept responsibility because it is easier to blame others for causing our reactions, rather than admit that we chose them.
A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.

When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.

What do you think were the four words?
You think it would be "You to be blame" ?
Or "What have you done?"
Or maybe "It is your fault!"?
No!

The husband just said "I Love You Darling", and tried to comfort and calm the wife.
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to keep the bottle away, this will not have happened. No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We miss out some warmth in human relationship in giving each other support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don't multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness.

If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be much fewer problems in the world. We should take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.

p/s blaming others is a really bad bad habit, so let us reduce it, stop it.

Saturday, June 19, 2010

Bonsoir!

French?
Am I ready for it?
I am not sure about this actually. Will it be tough?
Urgh~ I'm so scared.
Je ne sais pas.

Anyhow I'd like to share few great, wonderful songs,
As we know, music is an international language :)





more to share, but later k :)
Bonne nuit~

Wednesday, June 16, 2010

don't ask me why, it is just that i haven't met any yet!

I'm not surprised, not everything lasts
I've broken my heart so many times, I stopped keeping track
Talk myself in, I talk myself out
I get all worked up, then I let myself down

I tried so very hard not to lose it
I came up with a million excuses
I thought, I thought of every possibility
And I know someday that it'll all turn out
You'll make me work, so we can work to work it out
And I promise you, kid, that I give so much more than I get
I just haven't met you yet

I might have to wait, I'll never give up
I guess it's half timing, and the other half's luck
Wherever you are, whenever it's right
You'll come out of nowhere and into my life

And I know that we can be so amazing
And, baby, your love is gonna change me
And now I can see every possibility

And somehow I know that it'll all turn out
You'll make me work, so we can work to work it out
And I promise you, kid, I give so much more than I get
I just haven't met you yet

They say all's fair
In love and war
But I won't need to fight it
We'll get it right and we'll be united

And I know that we can be so amazing
And being in your life is gonna change me
And now I can see every single possibility

And someday I know it'll all turn out
And I'll work to work it out
Promise you, kid, I'll give more than I get
Than I get, than I get, than I get

Oh, you know it'll all turn out
And you'll make me work so we can work to work it out
And I promise you kid to give so much more than I get
Yeah, I just haven't met you yet

I just haven't met you yet
Oh, promise you, kidTo give so much more than I get

I said love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love, love, love
Love, love
I just haven't met you yet




the thought that counts

i just got my very first salary in life today!
(kesian, bataq sikit. org x pernah keje kan haha)

so...dinner with family @ monrods tonight yeee~
*sorry fams, gaji ciput kan, so tu je lah yg termampu hehe :P

Saturday, June 12, 2010

Officially 22 ~

11th of June 1989 : wish it's just yesterday :)


I am thankful for all the tears I have cried for they have taught me to appreciate laughter and they have given me the ability to see the joy that comes after. I'm very thankful to be doing what I'm doing; therefore syukur Alhamdulillah :)

I am thankful for all the relationships, for the good and yes, for the bad and no, for they have given life to my emotions, as an appreciation of what I have had. I am thankful for the pain as I have known it has given a compassion for the suffering, an ability to reach out to others and an appreciation of little things.

Thank You.


*11th of june 2010,
I'm thankful to be breathing, on this side of the grass. Whatever comes, comes.
* 3.78, i love you!